Our emotional DNA
As we well know, emotions are part of our human experience, however, it can be challenging for many to deal with them.
Emotions can represent an expansive or contractive state.
When a contractive emotion arises and we come to ignore it, the effect can be transferred to the body which is the escape valve.
We must take into account that emotions are produced by thoughts that can become beliefs and due to an event that marks an intense emotional experience it is as if an imprint is formed in our system that can be reactivated when similar events occur.
In turn, the contractive emotions we feel may come from our family system, what we call the emotional DNA.
Emotional DNA explains that we respond not only to our own early life experiences but also to the experiences of previous generations. Their experiences influence ours even when we do not know them.
Emotional DNA is a set of patterns of thoughts, emotions and actions that we inherit from our ancestors in response to events that happened to them. How they responded to an event and how those responses are then passed on to the next generation is what is called emotional DNA; it creates an emotional blueprint for subsequent generations who will respond in the same way to events or stimuli, until the person experiencing it wants to create a more conscious way of addressing or responding to them, thus creating changes to current patterns and creating new emotional DNA.
Emotional DNA is that pattern of thoughts, feelings, actions, inactions and assigned meanings that we inherit and it drives our life powerfully unconsciously, until we make it conscious so we can make different decisions that align with our life path.
Emotional DNA is found in all aspects of our lives, with respect to money, success, relationships, leadership, and dictates how successful or limited we will be, depending on our choice to stay in line with what is there or change or expand what is there.
When an event occurs and we immediately react to it, thoughts, emotions and actions are presented around it. Creating a language and a library of thoughts, emotions and actions, and if we feel it in a deep way and the body and mind accept what we are telling ourselves, it becomes true. The only difference is that it is not true, it is a fabricated truth that can be changed whenever we want.
It is therefore important to pay attention to the way we react to the events that happen to us, paying attention to our thoughts and the way we process information, to the emotions that arise, in this case contractive, to address and transcend them.
There are several tools that we can apply, but the most important thing is to accept the emotion when it occurs, to welcome it and accept our present state, creating the space to get in touch with it, because if we do not do so, the discomfort is perpetuated and may cause more symptoms or intensify the existing ones.
Emotion is information that we can translate to understand what our Self wants us to become aware of in order to move forward.
On the other hand, developing emotional intelligence is key to cultivate a healthier relationship with ourselves and with others, by being aware of our emotions we can be more empathetic with the emotional states that occur in others, and instead of reacting reactively to experiences that happen to us we can address them in a way that leads to an understanding between the parties, either between the parts that compose us as with others.
Benefits of having emotional intelligence:
Self-regulation
We increase our self-awareness
There is greater empathy
Improved communication internally and with others, which enriches bonds.
Emotional DNA also works in the realm of human potential. Analyze what you have now, how is your information processing and behavior, what are those current limiting and empowering patterns that live in you, find the gift even in the most challenging events, remembering that every situation we are presented with holds a teaching from which we can learn, overcoming internal limitations.
Remember that you have the power to transform your DNA, allowing you to perceive and live what you are capable of achieving and passing on to the next generations.
Through Transpersonal and Emotional Intelligence accompaniment I accompany clients who wish to get in touch with and deepen their emotional world, applying different tools depending on the person and their present state, remembering that each case and process is unique.
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